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Chocolate Goals

Editors note:  I posted the actual chart made on Excel.  For some reason, the lines on the chart show up while I’m writing, but do not appear to show up in the preview of the post.  You’ll have to use your imagination and picture the little squares that go with the numbers.   


Eli loves chocolate.

I mean, I love chocolate.  But Eli LOVES chocolate.  Chocolate anything.  Chocolate Everything.  The problem is that he craves it constantly.chocolate 1

The only other thing Eli loves as much as chocolate is playing video games.  The problem is that once he’s playing, he doesn’t want to get off.  We allow him to play in increments of 1 hour at a time.  Unfortunately, he often stalls when it’s quitting time.

“I can’t!  I have to finish this battle!”  can be heard resonating throughout the house every time his hour is up.

We always give him plenty of warning as to when quitting time is approaching.  We’ve tried consequences.  Threats of losing the ability to play for the rest of the day.   But it seems that he usually ends up in a panic or meltdown because we keep having to say, “Eli…you’re past your time. Eli…you were supposed to have gotten off 5 minutes ago.  Eli…Eli…Eli….”

“Aaaaahhh!  I’m trying!”  It’s become a constant battle that ends with screaming and a self-induced anxiety fit.

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So I decided to incorporate another idea from the seminar we attended the other night.

I made a chart.chocolate 4

Got off video games/Kindle/computer On Time

It’s just a simple little chart.  chocolate 7

Every time Eli gets off video games on time — and by “on time” I mean that he is no more than 1 minute past his designated quitting time — he gets to place a check mark or a sticker in the numbered square.  After he succeeds in getting off the game on time 10 times in a row, he will earn himself a big candy bar of his choice.

I explained the process and the goal to him and he seemed like he was into it.  In fact, he might have salivated a little.

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I’m hoping the promise of chocolate will be a goal worthy of working toward.  I’m hopeful that it will help solve the issue of getting off the game on time and curb the obligatory meltdown at the end of each game.  Honestly, I fully expect screams and tantrums because he was two minutes over and doesn’t get to place his sticker.  But…we’re going to have to work through it.

Just like everything else.

Now if I can come up with an idea to keep him rolling around on the floor sighing and saying, “I’m booooored!” every time he is in between being allowed to play.

I’m excited about all the ideas I’m gaining from these seminars!  I can’t wait to go to the next one!

For some reason, I really want chocolate now….


Comments on: "Chocolate Goals" (3)

  1. Rachel Jeffers said:

    I also want chocolate now! Hope this works for him. 🙂

  2. Brenda Jackson said:

    What seminars are you talking about? Would you please send me some info? I can always use some more things to try! Thanks!

    • brooksk1967 said:

      Yes, of course! The next one is next Thursday, May 2. Here is the information:

      International Speaker on Autism, Brenda Smith Myles to Present Program in Lancaster – Thursday, May 2

      Southeastern Ohio Center for Independent Living (SOCIL) is pleased to welcome international speaker, Brenda Smith Myles, Ph.D., to Lancaster, Ohio.
      She will be presenting the program, Simple Strategies that Work: Creating Life Success for Students with Autism Spectrum Disorders,
      Thursday, May 2, 6:30-8:00pm
      at Ohio University-Lancaster, 1570 Granville Pike, Lancaster.

      Dr. Myles presentation will provide ideas and suggestions that teachers and parents can use to help a student with Asperger’s Syndrome (AS) and High Functioning Autism (HFA) on the road to success;
      – problems that arise at home and in the classroom and how parents and teachers can adjust the environment to accommodate, while not interfering with typical routines.

      She will also discuss
      – what can cause anxiety for the student with AS/HFA,
      – how this can lead to decreased academic and social performance, decreased attention to task, and potential increases in behavior problems,
      – and what can be done to assist the individual to reach his or her potential.

      Brenda Smith Myles, Ph.D., consultant for the Ohio Center for Autism and Low Incidence (OCALI), is the recipient of the Autism Society of America’s Outstanding Professional Award, the Princeton Fellowship Award, and the Council for Exceptional Children Division on Developmental Disabilities Burton Blatt Humanitarian Award.

      She has made over 500 presentations all over the world and written more than 150 articles and books on Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD).

      In the latest survey conducted by the University of Texas, she was acknowledged as the second most productive applied researcher in ASD in the world.

      The program is free and open to the public. Registration is required to attend.
      Call Linda McDonald at SOCIL to register 740.689.1494 ext. 12.
      CEUs available upon request when registering.

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